Based solely on the selfies on this blog, I don't think it should come as any surprise that I'm a big lipstick lover. It's the cosmetic equivalent of slipping into your favorite pair of heels. It gives you a little mojo boost. So I'm going to go ahead and plug it again today. We can call it my "lipstick shtick" because I know I've been pretty relentless about it.
I can't tell you how many times I hear "She can pull that off, but I can't," when it comes to lipstick, and it's really kind of sad. It's a damn shame actually. It's also completely untrue.
Those pretty little lips of yours are straight up lying to you when they utter that phony phrase, but I do know where you're coming from. I used to let nothing but chapstick, Dr. Pepper, and the cheeks of the ones I love touch my lips, and now, I own more lipstick than socks. Let's be honest, though, that's partly because I don't buy a whole lot of socks, but still . . . I've got a pretty impressive inventory.
I once was a naked-lip-only girl too. In fact, I used to use CONCEALER on my lips because I hated any color whatsoever on them, and now I look at pictures of myself from my color drought, and my lips look so thin and sad. They were the outcasts of my face. It's like watching Superman take the bus because he's too scared to fly. All of that untapped potential. *hangs head in shame*
I'm not saying I look great with lipstick on. In fact, it's quite possible that I look like the offspring of a clown and the Mad Hatter half the time, but I will tell you . . . I'm never again . . . letting my lips . . . . take the bus.
If you're of the "I only like nude lips on myself" variety, that's alright. I ain't givin' up on you yet;)
Nude lips are gorgeous—they're understated, and they allow your eyes to be the stars of the show—but if you're doing it because you're scared of color, I hope you take a little bit of a risk because, based on everything I know—about cosmetics or otherwise—nothing great comes out of your comfort zone, but EVERYTHING great comes when you get out of your comfort zone.
This little daily collage below proves that nudes look great on everyone—they're safe, soft, and pretty—but don't these beauties look a little sassier with their lips a little jazzed up? You're no different. I promise you it's not just because they're freakishly good-looking celebrities. No more of that silly "she can pull it off, but I can't" stuff 'n nonsense.
Have you ever been in a foreign place, and looked at someone and thought, "Woah, that guy looks like so-and-so!" and then looked again and were like, "Actually, not really. Maybe just from the side . . . or if you squint your eyes . . . or . . . yeah, maybe just the back of his head?"
I learned in one of my college psychology classes that our brains are kind of funny when it comes to facial recognition, and it plays tricks on us even more when it comes to our own faces. So much so that it actually takes us TWO FULL DAYS to be able to reach unbiased neutrality when examining ourselves with a different look.
We're so used to seeing our faces the way we normally do them up, so when we look in the mirror after a big change—e.g., getting your hair done, getting your brows waxed, having someone else do your makeup—we automatically reject it because it looks foreign to us. That's also why your hairstylist always tells you, "Give it a few days, and then come back to me if you still don't like it."
In fact, I bet when Zooey Deschanel first got bangs, it took her a few days to get used to them.
I bet when Cher Lloyd first took her makeup artist's advice and started growing her eyebrows back in, she wasn't quite on board with the idea.
I'm pretty sure Katy Perry had to have been a little leery about going from blonde to jet black.
But to us, it's INSTANTLY obvious that they look absolutely gorgeous after those risks (and before, but their post-risk looks are just jaw dropping).
I'm saying this because I don't want you to decide to get a little risky and a little frisky and put some lipstick on yourself only to ferociously scrub it off 30 seconds after you look in the mirror, and be like "Welp, I tried."
In fact, if you do that in front of me, you're going to glance in the mirror and see me standing over your shoulder like a damn creep lookin all like . . .
Give it a real shot—the two-day challenge. Ask your best friend or your significant other what they think, and believe them when they tell you that you look like a stone cold fox.
Here's a quick tip, though, if you love a naked lip and are just wanting to do a good nude: Do the Nude-On-Purpose look; don't leave them completely bare altogether. If you don't do absolutely anything at all to them, they'll get lost in pictures and basically look like they melted into your skin.
For the Nude-on-Purpose look, I use a light taupe-colored pencil to line the lips, blending it toward the center. Then I fill them in with a nude lipstick. For a lot of weddings, I use Revlon's Mauve It Over 003 because it's a nude with a hardly noticeable blush undertone, and it looks great on just about any skin tone. To finish it off, I usually dab just a little bit of clear gloss to the middle of their lips to add a 3-D my-lips-are-so-pillowy-soft effect.
Another great nude is MAC's Freckletone. Whatever you use, don't forget lip liner! You can blend it in, but it's a necessary ingredient if you want to avoid the dreaded no-lip phenomenon.
Alright, when it comes to the 3-Jessi collage below, the first picture shows me having put concealer on my lips like I used to (WHY? EVER?), and the second picture shows my nude lip treatment. It looks a little pinker in the photo than it does in real life, but you can see what I mean about the fact that it looks like I actually grew a pair (of lips, of course) between the first picture and the second. The third lip is the color I'm on today. Go big or go home, right?
Please pay no mind to the rest of my makeup today. I spent a lion's share of today's 85°-weather outside so I'm looking kinda droopy and melty and all that jazz. Small price to pay for a free suntan, though, am I right? #longlivesummer
All in all, I hope you don't let your doubts keep you from stepping outside your comfort zone and taking a few risks—whatever they may be.